The In group

February 11, 2009 teens 7

Yesterday I volunteered at the high school. I’m always amazed by these young people. I’m struck with the stark differences in youth. There are mature students, working hard, prepping for college and enjoying their youth in the right way, and then, there are others.

I’ll describe one such young woman. We’ll call her Zelda, as I think this is a safe bet on not naming anyone. Zelda is statuesque, oh so lovely. She was on the homecoming court her freshman year, she is popular, I think she may play a sport. She knows all the jocks and pretty girls. Now this girls is 15 or 16, and this school year she allegedly got drunk and threw up on herself and passed out. It was rumored her best friend, another lovely misguided teen, dumped her in her front yard passed out. What a shame. Yesterday I saw her, she said hi to me, mentioned my girls, as she has had classes with them. She missed the first half of the day due to some appointment. She was not in a hurry to get to her class and she was paged in the halls. We then got a call to check her out early for another Dr appt.

This does not really explain my issue with Zelda, but it’s more about girls like her. Poplular pretty girls that seem to be getting ahead in life and yet in my mind are lost and confused. Zelda will graduate, and she’s probably made OK grades so she’ll go to college. At her tender age we know she’ s a party girl, and who know’s what else she’s been involved with. Why do others look up to and idolize or hold in esteem this young woman? In my mind, and thankfully my two girls too, she is foolish and does not get their respect.

I find it so sad, I guess there were girls like this 30 years ago when I was in HS. All I can say is that I am working hard on raising my kids, and while I’m no fool, I know kids make poor choices, and they are expected to make mistakes, but I so hope they do not ever become this type of girl.
Did you know the “in” crowd in high school? Were you a Zelda?

7 Responses to “The In group”

  1. Steph

    I wasn’t a Zelda, but I have to admit, at least in junior high, I was envious of those popular girls. They seemed to have it all together. All the boys loved them.

    But as I matured, I realized they were “loved” for all the wrong reasons.

    Now I’m glad I was too dorky to be a Zelda.

  2. Anonymous

    Don’t discount the “Zelda’s” and don’t be too quick to judge. You might be right she might be nothing more then vacant, party girl placeholder at this point in her life and you may have no respect for her – but what do you really know about her? Her family, her background?
    We all learn lessons all of our lives. Her road is different then you daughters’ right now, that doesn’t make the lessons any less valuable. The jury is out on who she will become and if we hold her 15/16 year old self against the woman she may become then we are the ones who need to do some rethinking. Love, A Zelda.

  3. Anita

    I’m flattered anon that you wanted to comment. I’m just a little blogger, never knew I was reaching the anon’s. I admit Zelda’s road is different, trust me each young person’s is, but I’m glad my girls aren’t on her path. finis.

  4. Crazy Mom of Three

    I have always been able to see right through those types of people. They never have impressed me and they still do not impress me in my adult life. I still cannot figure out why people are so enamored by those types of people. I have actually wondered if I had super powers that others simply did not because to me it is all so crystal clear. I don’t know if I am a geek or not … most probably. But to me, geeks are cool … they are smart, interesting, full of depth & substance, and they work hard (as opposed to “hardly” work. Frankly, I always thought I was in the “in” crowd and the Zelda types were the ones who were “out.” Have I had it backwards all these years?

  5. Crazy Mom of Three

    Anonymous — it is true that Zelda may grow out of this someday … but I have met plenty of adult Zeldas … and I have learned that there are, indeed, many pathways to the same goal. There is, indeed, the path of hard work, etc. and then there is the path of how you look and who you know, and even who you sleep with. If these paths get us to the same goal, then who are we to judge I guess. Maybe Zelda is the smart one … she might skip a whole lot of the hard work for that corner office … who knows for sure! (Sorry, I have one Zelda in mind …. an adult Zelda from my past. And I have no idea what she was like as a teen …)

  6. sheila

    Hi, I’m glad you found me, cuz now I found you! lol. Anyhow, I was Zelda, I hate to admit. Oh my God the days of partying. Which is probably why I’m a homebody now. Thankfully my own kids didn’t end up like me, but then again I had my own experiences to guide me in how I raised them. (Not that my mom didn’t raise me right…)

    Anyhow, I’m happy to say that ‘this’ Zelda has made something of herself! Yea! This IS hope for the Zeldas. And I just loved this post…because I think the same thing when picking up my kids at school or going to school funtions. I just have to smack them thoughts outta my head knowing that that was me. lol

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