It’s not easy to be successful

March 4, 2009 balance 8

Once you say you’re going to settle for second, that’s what happens to you in life.” –
— John F. Kennedy

I keep thinking of my daughters and how they work and and struggle to become the persons (adults) they are growing to be. Both my daughters have atributes and strengths I did not at their age, and thy both face different challenges than I did.

This morning Caitie was complaining about the training her soccer team is doing right now, this is her premier travel team and they are currently training by running 5-7 miles across a causeay bridge. The incline and distance of the bridge is challenging, no doubt. It takes time, the weather has been cool this week, and when it’s over, it hurts a bit. This team is something that Cait has choosen to persue, and we support financially and emotionally, though neither is always easy…lol. We try to be sympathetic to her, but honestly she was whiney this morning, and we didn’t give in much when she said, well maybe I’ll have too much homework.

Finding balance in your life is a growth process, right now she is learning school/sports/social balanace,and doing it well most of the time, certainly there are moments of exhaustion and frustration, but haven’t we all experienced that?

I’m busy most days tring to balance my tasks of motherhood, home, faith, frienship, wife…………and the list goes on. I don’t feel good about the balance every minute every day, but I keep trying. How do you try to balance or juggle all the balls you must keep in the air? How to you decide that the hard work of striving to be the best in something is worth it?

8 Responses to “It’s not easy to be successful”

  1. Mnmom

    I am often amazed at how my daughters manage to get such good grades AND play major sports AND have a social life. I could barely handle walking upright when I was their age.

    I don’t always find balance. Sometimes I wonder if we women set our bar waaaay too high. It used to be enough to just be a Mom. Now we have to excel at Momhood, marriage, career, a stunning home, gardening, yoga, AND we must exceed at balancing all of that. Frankly I just get tired.

    So I do my job well, and give parenting my best shot. The stunning house and the yoga will just have to go on without me.

  2. Ali

    I was hoping I could find an answer in your comment section:) Some days I feel like I have it all under control and other days, well, the only thing I end up accomplishing is getting out of bed:)

  3. Elizabeth

    I am in awe when I see people balance everything so wonderfully. I don’t. Some days, I’m supermom and my life revolves around my children while my house gets neglected. Some days, I’m Martha Stewart and my house is perfect while my children play independently. And then there’s the hours I put in at mom’s house working… And my important job as a supportive wife! I’d love to find the secret to juggling everything and keeping all the balls in the air at once.

  4. Crazy Mom of Three

    I used to do so much more than I do now. I guess what I do now is truly try to simplify my life doings and commitments. Balance is always a work in progress here. But, if something is really important, or will serve a greater goal to benefit my family, I do push myself to do everything in my power to make it happen. Other things I have learned to say no to when I feel overwhelmed, and even prior to that.

  5. Denise K.

    I think that struggle for balance eludes us all from time to time. When we stop and really think about it, how much of it really matters in the long run? Will the world stop if I don’t serve on the year book committe? What if one of the kids doesn’t participate in an activity…will if affect who they are as an adult? Thanks for bringing our attention to this important topic, that unless we stop and think about it…we just keep plugging forward not realizing something important could be missing in all our hurry scurrying. Thanks Anita! ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Lisa

    I’m forever working on balance. I’ve changed my standards about housekeeping, much to my and my family’s relief. My kids are getting old enough now that their need for my time is shifting from high maintenance to just maintenance. I like it.

    I’ve also started doing things for myself which helps me to resent less the fact that I have to work outside the home.

    Your other commenters are right – it’s a work in progress, shifting and changing as the needs of those around me change and work changes, etc.

    What a great, thought-provoking post.

  7. Miss Healthypants

    I think we women in particular (more than men) struggle with staying balanced in our lives. I know I sure do!–and I don’t even have kids yet! Just a job that is sometimes pretty demanding.

    Anyway, it’s probably good that your daughter is learning this important life skill at her age, rather than much further down the line. ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. sheila

    (I’m reading old posts today, lol)
    This is so true about kids today. I never remember being that busy as a kid, how our kids are today. My daughter is 18 and starts college in the fall. She’s still in HS but works quite a bit, cleans some old ladys apartment and babysits. And still manages great grades. It’s bizzare.

    ((hmmmm)) maybe its because I lacked motivation at her age, lol.

    I’m getting good at juggleing. After 18 yrs, I’m finally realizing how it’s done. Ughhh! Too so long! A lot of it has to do with not worrying so much.

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