You’ve heard the line looks can be deceiving haven’t you? Well it applies in abundance to these two daughters of mine. Never doubt I love them………I do so much. I love them so much it hurts me when they hurt, it breaks my heart with they stumble or someone mistreats them.
Being a mother to a teen is a special time in a woman’s life, I now wonder how my mother survived it three times!! This might explain some of the idiosyncrasies my mom now possesses.
It is a daily roulette wheel of emotions and attitudes coming from these two! On the one hand I have Adrienne, since summer began she has spent almost every waking minute in her bedroom. It’s our fault for making it so comfortable, TV with cable, lap top, cell phone, comfy bed. What were we thinking? She emerges for food and bathroom duties. She does come out for softball or to tell me what plans she is making to do what you guess……..leave the house!! She is surly if asked to pick up this bedroom or bathroom and even more grumpy if asked to do a chore that would benefit me…………gasp!
On the other hand we have Caitie, well I think we have her, we’ve seen very little of her since Sunday afternoon. Her latest BFF has a driver’s license and a car………a magical combo. From what I’ve been told she also never eats at home, doesn’t have to tell her parents everywhere she goes and is much more trusted by her parents……..ummm ugh. This new friend is very nice, I like her, her dad is a Pastor at a non-denom church and while she is given some freedoms she’s not a wild child. Caitie has been to the beach, out to lunch, to a youth group meeting, to Olivia’s house, sleeping at Olivia’s, to the beach, to the movies, out for dessert, out to get ice cream, in general……she has been OUT!
Ok, ok, I know, do I possibly remember my own aversion to my parents and home as an almost 16 year old. I’m trying to be patient, and be nice. I think it would make me less frustrated if I’d get the occasional thanks for what ever it is we do provide for them, ie, food, shelter, $$ to go and do the above, clean clothes, clothes in general, and most importanty, cell phones and texting, hell I should get a big ol’ hug daily for that alone!!
I’m also trying to give Thing 1 and Thing 2 more opportunities to drive, but my lord they try my patience, yes mom I know I should turn my phone off, but it’ s muted, is that ok? Yes mom I know gas is expensive and I won’t be driving everywhere when I get my own license(in August…yikes). Yes mom, the StateFarm safe drivers program is lame, but I will do it because it will cut down our insurance cost……….all these “yes mom I knows” are said with sarcasm and attitude………would it kill either of them to fake it a bit better?
So…………9 weeks to go……………do you think I can make it!!?