Get comfortable, this might get long.
In March, you might recall that Caitie broke up with her boyfriend Shayn, you can go here to relive the drama. She was sad for quite a while, but she just moved on and has been checking out boys, as girls her age will do, but no one special.
Before she left for camp she told me that a boy in her youth group had told her he really liked her, she was shocked. She knows him from school, he is a year behind her and she had a class with him. Nice boy, great family, but from what limited dealings I’d had with him, very immature. Caitie kept saying she was not interested, she was just being nice to him. I supported her, tell him you are just friends, blah blah, blah.
Oddly every time I talked to her from camp, which was only twice, she said, oh XX says hi, seemed kind of odd, but ok. Friday night they left camp for the long bus ride home , TN to FL, and Caitie texted me. She was happy, had a great week at camp, anxious to come home…….you get the picture. Then she told me that she is kinda dating XX………….hmmmm, the same boy that 6 days before had been just a friend…………gosh I was laughing inside. She asked if I was ok with it, I told her she was a big girl and I know she makes good choices, trying to encourage her independence and I really do want her to do that on her own. We text a bit more, XX stayed in TN for another week with family, and she won’t see him for a week etc. We text a few more times before 11pm, I go to sleep, tell her call the house before they are back in town, giving her dad a chance to get up and dress before they are in the HS parking lot. She says she will and I say goodnight.
Fast forward 7:45am, phone rings. Hi mom, we are about 30 minutes from home. Yeah, great, my girl is almost home! She then says, I broke up with XX………..wow, that was a quick romance…lol, then she says, I’m dating Shayn again. Ok, now get this picture, she is on a bus, not even in the same state as either of these boys, and she has broken up with one and started back with another in a matter of hours. I asked how it happened, she said that Shayn tried to text her while she was away, but in the mountains, no cell, but someone from camp told him she was now “dating” XX, (they didn’t even kiss she said, so not too much romance there)(it was a church camp…lol) So by Friday night she was texting and talking to the former love, Shayn, who wants her back.
In all honesty, I knew in her heart she wanted him back. We will see how it goes, they are young. I’m more than staying out of this, I’m supportive and letting her go with him if I can. (he drives and has his own car) I hope she’s learned some things, like her girl friends that she’s been spending so much time with are very important. I hope she’s learned that she can be happy without a boyfriend, and that if you have one, you need to both be happy to keep it together. I hope she’s knows that we love and trust her.
I guess he really does care, he showed up at the HS too Saturday morning to meet the bus, she he could see and hug her…..Kevin had to call me quickly to tell me…lol. She came home, showered, ate and then was off to spend a couple of hours with him before he spent 1-9 Saturday working at the ice cream shop in town. He picked her up after work to see some fireworks.