Just in case you are wondering where this is going………..good lord it could go on forever……….I mean seriously, women and friendships are a life long story, some that last days or weeks and some that last lifetimes.
I’ve shared that I have only one childhood friend whom I even keep in touch with now……we were 11 when we met and now at 49 we send emails, birthday and Christmas cards and very little else. Even our emails are sparse. Never doubt I love Jan, she was so much to me when I was learning about me.
Like many young women I went away to college to be educated on more topics I thought possible, it’s so minimally about the books and classes at times. I learned about time management, laundry, lack of both…ha ha. I learned about men, and women, and sex, drugs and rock and roll. I failed at times, both emotionally and in those classes I was attending, but I made friends that at the time were my daily bread and water. Living in a dorm for 4.5 years was quite an experience. My parents paid for 100% of my college, and their stipulations about where I lived did not waiver, and oddly enough, 30 years ago many of us lived in dorms for our entire undergrad years. I began with a room mate from my HS, and now, I have no idea where she is. Over those years I met women from near and far, with varying value systems and hopes and dreams. I had good roommates and bad, oddly enough I can only really remember 2…………how sad is that. I know one year my parents paid for a single room..lucky me. We were there for each other, helping with hair and clothes for a party or date night, helping with class work when things were insane. Supporting each other when some guy dumped us, and yes I needed my she of that help.
Today I watch my two teen daughters and I watch their friendships. I tell them to cherish those as much as they can, as those girls that are there for them are their greatest gift right now. These are the prelude to the college friends, the friends they see more than family(some days it feels like that already).
I’ll be continuing this………….one theme I see in friendships is that your geography and stage of life seem to be the key to who we seek out in friendship. Sharing a common bond…….neighborhood, high school, college, work, motherhood etc……..where we are and what’s most important……these are the beginnings as to why we choose or are drawn to others for a relationship.
The photo is the University of Missouri Student Union……….isn’t that gorgeous!!!
courtesy of google images.