Omisions of truth

November 9, 2009 Uncategorized 12

I might call it a lie, but my daughter would use her recently famous line…..”I forgot”, seems A forgets everything lately, most of all, she forgets to tell me that the crappy grades she is getting are indeed her grades, not a grade book mix up and not the teacher’s fault.
Yes she has a Physics teacher that seems a bit out there and has mixed up her grades, and now that has served to be an excuse for her as to why her online grades are not correct. My daughter tells us she has spoken to the teacher and that the grades are being corrected. I threaten her, she says its being fixed and then dang I let her go to a social event.
Fast forward to this morning, where we discuss this again, and I sense she is not being honest with me and then she suddenly shows me the grade I have just emailed her teacher about is indeed hers!!!
Good lord! Last week in one class she got a 0 out of 18 on a quiz in one class on now a 20/100 on a worksheet. This only tells me that she is not doing enough work, not studying hard enough and blowing her previously way above avg/National honor society level GPA!
As a parent I can only lead her to the promise land of good grades and colleges that want you, I cannot make her do the work.
What I can also do is remove privileges because that is my prerogative, to allow the car, the social life, etc etc.
This part of parenting sucks!!!!

12 Responses to “Omisions of truth”

  1. The Crazy Suburban Mom

    Wow, yeah…. I agree. I don’t have an answer for making kids want to work. My son found his own way and it was very painful for me. That’s the only way I know how to put it… hugs.


  2. linda

    I feel for ya sister…like they say, “been there, done that!” I could have written post myself about 5 years ago. Good luck and let us know the outcome.

    (I can’t tell you how many times we took away my son’s truck!)

  3. Tammy Howard

    It was report card week in our house, too. Youngest did great, honor roll, excellent comments, blahblablah. Eldest? well – let’s just say she lost her phone and a good bit of her social life. And you’re right – this part sucks.

    (Pouring you a glass of wine, then one for myself – cheers)

  4. My name is PJ.

    This part of parenting ABSOLUTELY sucks, but it’s important.

    Internet,cell phone, tv, social activities, extra-curricular activities….say buh bye!

    Remember two things: You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink; and it will work out fine in the end regardless. She may wind up taking a more circuitous route to get there, but she WILL get there. One of my kids did a very similar thing…..

  5. sheila

    Been there last year with mine. She was a senior who up until that year did wonderfully. 12th grade apparently meant….’time to slack’.

    My guess is that it’s a VERY FLEETING bout with a case of the ‘shrugg it offs’.

    She’s got a good head on her shoulders.

  6. Denise K.

    Parenting is the hardest job there is, no doubt about it! You are a wonderful mother Anita, so I know you will come up with some good solutions everyone can live with. Just think on it for awhile so whatever you decide has the gift of time behind it. Praying for you my friend, I miss you so much!

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