Well all know them, facebook, my space, twitter………the sites where we post our status, our mood, our daily goings on, our pictures, heck last week, our bra color in support of breast cancer awareness……………..but rules, what are the rules?
I’ve wondered for a while about what I think is acceptable, and what drives me batty……and now I’m going to write about it……because I know I’m not alone.
The first thing that comes to mind is the one line dramatic post, you’ve seen it, the line that says my life is awful, why me, or more graphic lingo for things are really crappy. I don’t mind if someone writes” lousy day, school was awful” or had an accident, all fine, car a mess”, or things like that, but the obvious cry out for attention grabbing posts and friends to say, oh what happened are you ok etc………….they just annoy me. If this is you…………stop it now!!! Say what you want, don’t pussy foot around and just put it out there!
Appropriate………hmmmm, what is stuff you want people to know that isn’t too personal? It’s okay to put out there that the kids are sick, or that you aren’t feeling well, but recently an online acquaintance posted quite casually that she’d had a miscarriage. My heart goes out to anyone that loses a child, how devastating, but honestly is facebook the place to put that? Isn’t it more personal, something you want to share with family and friends at your own pace, so they know? This woman didn’t even know she was pregnant, wasn’t trying to conceive. I guess my thoughts would just not be to announce it like that on FB. I chose not to put on FB when my dad fell in the shower, yes I wanted support and prayers for him, but it just wasn’t for me. Honestly many of my local friends don’t even know about it, my dad is 1000 miles away, they don’t know him, and we were on holiday so I just didn’t tell them. Maybe I’m willing to put on FB when my teens drive me to drink, but not about my dad’s health, I don’t know. So if you are putting uber intimate details of you life on FB, think about it, does the guy you went to grade school with,who found you from your other HS classmates really want to know about the personal stuff? It’s only my opinion, but some things just don’t belong out there like that.
My other concerns always involve privacy and safety. I’ve put on FB that I’m traveling etc, and then sure maybe I shouldn’t maybe some friend of a friend might be out there ready to rob my house(huge disappointment let me tell you). I have my kids names and pictures out there……heck on the blog too. I worry more about my teens and tween son, are they protecting their privacy and watching what they say or who they friend? I do watch what they do, and honestly none of them are as addicted to social sites as much as I am….ha ha!!!
So maybe I should write a book, I’m already sure there is a FaceBook for Dummies, but what about a Social Networking Etiquette for Dummies? HMMMMMMMMMM??