Not the fun mom/house

January 19, 2010 Uncategorized 14

Growing up do you remember your friend that had the fun home? Either they had a fun yard, or pool, or a trampoline, or a cool basement or game room. Their mom served great snacks and never minded the onslaught of 10 or more kids or teens. Growing up that was NOT my house, my mom was concerned about a mess, always, not that our house was spotless, but it did look pretty darn good. My mom wasn’t happy on cold days or really hot days(wonder why it was always a pleasant temp down there) when I would have friends in the basement to play, for some odd reason she never wanted them to use our bathroom. I would come up and ask, and no lie, my mom would ask them to go home to potty………come on, isn’t that odd. Now years and years later my mom even wonders what her point was, except those dirty neighborhood kids might leave it a mess………LOL, we all tease her now….and laugh.

So now I have my own kids, and guess what? We are not the fun home. We don’t have a pool, or a cool wooded yard or adjacent to one. We don’t have a game room/bonus room etc. I’m not a fun mom either I guess……….I try, but I guess I fall short. My kids have friends over, but we are not the meeting place, the hub of activity, the fall back place where kids hang.

I was thinking of this because Nick spent the night and most of 2 days with a friend. The boy had a birthday party/sleepover. Several boys went in the afternoon, they shot each other up with air soft guns, and played in the woods next to his house. Five of them slept in a tent in the backyard and stayed up until 2am………..waking at 7:30 to play some more. Then the b-day boys dad offered to take the 3 left out on the boat……….where they fished because it was too cold to go tubing. Nick arrived home @ 7pm last night, after @ 30 hours with the fun family. He was dirty and exhausted, but smiling ear to ear, and happy as a clam. Dirt and boys goes hand in hand.

So I want to know, are you the fun home? Or are you like me…….with your kids all scurrying off to more exciting homes?

14 Responses to “Not the fun mom/house”

  1. Smart Money Mom

    Hi Anita! I enjoyed reading your post. My girlie is going to be 5 but I think it is going to be tough for my house to be the fun house as she gets older because I am a neat freak! I know that about me and try to be a little more “loose” and allow some chaos. We’ll see how it goes…I have done her birthday parties at our house and survived those!

  2. Crazy Mom of Three

    I don’t have the fun home, although we have fun things. I guess it is because the girls are so young. I really have hesitated to have people over to swim too much because it is easy for people to get to talking and not see their kids go under in the water or even have their kids fall into the pool. This sounds terrible because I am a mom who cares a lot about this, but even I know how difficult it is to watch too young ones in a pool area who can’t swim. I do know my limits. So, until they can swim very well on their own, we don’t do much in the way of pool parties outside of the immediate family. We have a trampoline, but so do most of the kids in our neighborhood. My ds prefers to hang with friends in small groups. We used to do the large b-day parties, but I am done with those!

  3. sheila

    In the summer I don’t mind being the fun house. But the winter? Don’t come round here! TOo small of a house, lol.

    Anyhow, no we’re not so much on the funhouse front. Which I don’t understand. We’ve got a pool, video games, putting greens, blah blah blah, oh, 2 bball hoops.

    I think now a days they pick a house with lax supervision so they play without prying ears/eyes. (like I would do., lol)

  4. Mnmom

    We WERE the fun house until we moved and no longer have a kick-ass basement rec room. But plenty of them still hang out here. I let them cook, and make campfires.

    Here’s a hint if you aren’t the fun house. Send snacks TO the fun house. They don’t mind the activity level but feeding all those kids get expensive. Just always send along a box of juice boxes, or a sack of cookies or chips.

  5. Terra

    I don’t have the fun house. Frankly…my only old enough daughter doesn’t even have a fun house friend…she hangs with one girl and her mom is a bit like me…oh well, deprived I guess!!!

  6. Anita

    My house is a “fun house” about twice a month. And when it is, its only one or two girls spending the night and the next day. Does that count? 🙂
    My kids’ friends love it here, but I can’t handle a whole group on a frequent basis…only for birthday party sleepovers.
    Good post!

  7. Laura

    Oh, I always wanted all the stuff that made us the “fun” house — and then I decided to make my own fun (by having FOUR sons)!

    How can you not have fun with a bunch of boys? Mix in boxes, rope and sticks and a great time is had by all!

  8. Yaya' s Changing World

    I don’t know if ours is considered the fun home. I do know that when my oldest was 19, he and his brother had nineteen guests sleeping everywhere around the house. It was hard to take a step without meeting bodies. They all hung around for a couple of days and spent a lot of time just visiting. The refreshments were paid for by the kids and included such high-spirited food and drinks as hot dogs and kool-aid.

    All in all, I think everyone had a good time, but when I look around, I have to wonder what it was that drew them to our house.

    ~ Yaya
    Yaya’s Changing World

  9. Bonnie

    Hi Anita!
    We kind of seem to be the house in the neighborhood that the kids gravitate to. I think we are just more tolerant then the other parents maybe? For awhile I would think why can’t we play at your house instead for awhile..haha I think that might change as they get older.

  10. Ginger

    Not sure if we have a fun house. I guess some of their friends think so…but then again, they don’t care where they are at…they just all have fun together regardless.
    I’m a neat freak wannabe, but my house does not stay company ready, so I probably don’t have people over as often as I would like. But now you’ve got me thinking—does a clean house and fun house go hand in hand??
    Hmm…I guess, yes. Thinking back to growing up, my best friend definitely had the fun house, and her house was always extremely neat.
    Shoot! There goes my theory.

  11. Pam

    I think I’m somewhere in the middle. I’m lucky that neither of my girls has a friend who has a spectaculary fun house. They seem to spend time equally among all the houses. We do have a TV in the (unfinished) basement where they can hang out, but other than that we don’t have anything “special”.

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