Are you a complainer? Do you think you are the type of person that is constantly complaining about things that are just going to happen? I am talking about people who don’t particularly like their lot or place in life. It might be complaining about your job, or your marriage, or your kids……..and honestly from time to time……all those things can be irritating and we each have a right to moan and groan a bit. I am disturbed by people that seem to always complain about the same things………….and I just have decided to tune them out, to not discuss or encourage their constant miserable whining.
In all honesty I’m lucky, non of my really close friends are like this. Some of the people I meet at school or in Kevin’s work, and well yes even in my own family, and sometimes online………..well they doth protest too much. If a person is unhappy they need to be the agent of change. I realize that having good mental health is a key to that. If a person is depressed or filled with anxiety or any other major problems those can impact happiness, and some may not see the need for help. So reaching out is key. But let’s think about the person who hates their job…….make a plan to change it. Change your job, speak up……..make a difference. I hear so many mom’s complain about our roles……….while so not glamorous or financially rewarding, each thing we do to care for our family is critical. yes yes yes, the laundry keeps getting dirty the floors don’t clean themselves…on and on it goes. Complaining about them won’t change them!!! Only making a plan to conquer what is problem will help. Dating someone who is good enough for right now……….but not long term……….or worst yet,married to someone not fulfilling your needs……….let them know…..get what you need…..or move on………
I feel like I’m just not like this, I have up and down days, and I’ve had real issues wanting my own happiness, but I don’t complain daily about my current role and the wife, mom, chief cook and bottle washer.
I’ve removed myself from relationships that are negative and make me feel bad. I had a friend that I realized was always trying to one up me. Our kids were the same age and once attended the same school. We met that way, and we found some things in common. As time went on I realized we had less in common and more differences. The straw that broke the camel’s back, so to speak, was that this friend always wanted to compare our kids grades……..and brag on her own. Yes maybe her kids did have better grades, and I hated that she would ask. I eventually stopped sharing, and only said things like” oh the girls did well, oh congrats on XX straight A’s”. She couldn’t stop prying, and she couldn’t stop being gossipy, so I just stopped returning her calls. Her family moved last summer, and we haven’t spoken since. It was hard, but it was best for me.
I believe that as we age, most of realize that life is short and it’s best to fill our days with people and things that we love and that give us a positive feeling back. While my heart goes out to those unhappy people who really have so much but see only the glass half empty, I find I can only offer them the advise to yet again pull on their big girl panties, get over themselves and make your life happy!!
So in today’s column of Gratitude I have:
1. I am so blessed to have my husband, he is my rock, my helper and the last person I snuggle with eveyr night.
2. I am blessed to have my parents in my life still, I love still being able to reach out to them.
3. I am blessed with a network for women who I can pray and study my faith with.
4. I am blessed with 3 healthy, busy children.
5. I am thankful I can complain a little on my blog and then smile and ask, what am I complaining about, my life is oh so good!!!
Have a wonderful day, and stop _itching!!!