So Very Tragic

December 3, 2010 Uncategorized 8

The group picture above is from Homecoming this year.  The couple on the left are very good friends of Caitie’s.  She may be Caitie’s room mate at UNF.  Her boyfriend is a fine young man, he has plans to go into the Army after graduation. 
Tragically this week his father took his own life.  I don’t know many details, but I do know that he had been depressed, and he had been stressed in his work.  He took his life with a gun, and I really know nothing else.
Suicide leaves so many unanswered questions.  I know there are many who have said about suicide that it is a cowards way out, and honestly I don’t understand that comment either.  Can any of us imagine the depth of depression a person must be in to take their own life, to feel there is no way out?  I can’t and I’ve dealt with my own depression but certainly not to that degree.
My heart and prayers go out to his wife and two sons.  Their grief must be beyond consoling at this time. 
I decided to share this because it’s just been on my mind so much.  My girls have never know anyone involved in this kind of family tragedy before.  I try to help them, to encourage them to be available to their friend.  I plan on sending either food or something that may help them.  The obituary asked for no flowers but donations to the family. 
I also want to remind each of my friends and fellow bloggers that depression is real, and if you know anyone suffering to reach out, seek help for that person or yourself. 
These sad realities make me hold on to my loved ones a bit tighter, and be thankful for what I have.

8 Responses to “So Very Tragic”

  1. Ali

    Someone tried unsuccessfully to commit suicide in my MIL’s house several years ago and I was so torn–one minute I was angry that he could do this to my mil but overall I felt such sadness and empathy. My heart goes out to all suffering from depression.

  2. Terra

    Oh wow. I agree depression is very very real I have been writing about it a bit even (though I am ok as you know!) This is a very sad story and my heart goes out to all those involved. Please let me know if there we can do from Colorado to help. My heart simply sunk as I read this.

  3. Bonnie

    I’m sorry for the son Anita, must be so hard to deal with. Depression is very real. I’ve experienced it on a minor level but I know it can be devastating. I agree with you I don’t quite understand people who say it’s a cowardly thing to do. It’s just so sad that someone feels so hopeless.

    Thank you for your support this week, you’ll never know how much it meant to me.

  4. Mnmom

    Oh Anita this is so sad. People need to understand that the PAIN of depression is very real, and that person just wants the pain to end. They can’t possibly think clearly at that moment. We need to have empathy and an understanding of mental illness. Stand up for this kid’s father to those who call him a coward. We was sick, and suicide is a very real symptom of that illness.

    We had the same thing happen here 2 years ago.

  5. Pam

    Like Terra, my heart sunk when I read this. I feel so badly for that poor man’s family. It’s hard to imagine the pain he must have been in if he felt that suicide was the only solution. I feel especially sorry for his two young sons. What a difficult tragedy for them to process at such young ages. My thoughts go out to all of them and to your family as you also deal with this sad event.

  6. Beth

    Depression is so very real! I work with a couple kids that are in so deep it is painful! I do lots of praying for them!

    Suicide is so hard to understand.

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