Book Review: Not Becoming My Mother: and Other Things She Taught Me Along the Way

March 24, 2011 book review 5

I started this book while sitting in B&N, drawn to the cover and title, only it was this book in paperback, with a different title and coverFor You Mom, Finally, I finally borrowed this copy from the library and finished it up today.
Ruth Reichl writes about her mother, and the way she grew up, a young woman in the 1920’s, a woman who wanted career and purpose, but was saddled with responsibilities of being a housewife and mother. Ruth discovers who her mom really was through her letters and notes that she le…more
 

I started this book while sitting in B&N, drawn to the cover and title, only it was this book in paperback, with a different title and coverFor You Mom, Finally, I finally borrowed this copy from the library and finished it up today.
Ruth Reichl writes about her mother, and the way she grew up, a young woman in the 1920’s, a woman who wanted career and purpose, but was saddled with responsibilities of being a housewife and mother. Ruth discovers who her mom really was through her letters and notes that she left behind.

This book made me wonder about my own mom, now 83 years old and while she was always a great cook, housekeeper and mom I wonder if she had other goals, other plans for her life. Much like Ruth’s mother our relationship is difficult. I love her, I talk to her often, but I still sometimes feel like I’m 17 and so not doing things she would like me to do.

I was torn between a 3 and 4 rating, at only 112 pages it’s a nice short little read, and is a window into what women a generation or two before us really encountered growing up.(less)

5 Responses to “Book Review: Not Becoming My Mother: and Other Things She Taught Me Along the Way”

  1. Pam

    It sounds like a good and thought-provoking book. It is interesting to think about what our mothers goals and dreams were. Think about it from the other side – how do our girls see us? What do they know of our youthful goals and dreams? Fascinating stuff, right?

  2. Mnmom

    Great review. It’s a wonderful book that really sparks discussion with our Moms and Daughters. My Mom has been gone for 12 years. Now as I’m growing older I truly want to hear more from her but never will. What choices did she think she had? If she were 20 today what would she do? I know she always wanted kids, but was it all it was cracked up to be for her?

  3. Bonnie

    Sounds good Anita. I often wish I could talk to my mom and find out what her dreams were. We had a difficult relationship at times too. I think that’s commons with mothers and daughters although it sounds like you and your daughters have a great relationship.

Leave a Reply